5 Signs You're Dating A Womanizer

Getting back into the dating game after a painful
divorce is never easy, and the proliferation of
womanizers looking to take advantage of your
vulnerability only makes things worse. If you're just
starting to dip your toes back into the dating pool
after a recent divorce, you need to be able to tell
whether the guy who shows up at your door to whisk
you back into the world of romance really is the
Prince Charming you've been hoping for or if he's
simply a smooth Casanova in disguise.
It all starts innocently enough. You've just met a man who,
at least on the surface, seems to be your dream guy. He's
attractive, funny, charming, successful and his smile -- let
alone the thought of his caress -- makes you weak in the
knees. You go out on a date or two, and he's nothing short
of perfect. He treats you like a queen, compliments your
sense of style and tells you all of the things that you've
been longing to hear from a guy.
So how do you know this guy's the real thing and not just
some womanizer who's going to disappear after your first
slumber party? While the only way to know for sure is to
pass the test of time, here are a few red flags that would
definitely indicate your new man's a womanizer:
1. He has a reputation. If your girlfriends have warned
you that he uses women and throws them away, you need
to listen to them and know he's most likely a womanizer.
Granted, there's a small chance that you are the woman
who can change him, but even if you do, you'll just wind
up spending the rest of your relationship worrying he's
going to revert back to his old womanizing ways. It's very
likely a guy like this will.
2. He moves fast. Before you've even had a chance to
meet his friends and family, he's telling you that you're the
woman of his dreams and he's been waiting his whole life
just to find you. While this is certainly exciting and
thrilling, how could he possiblyknow that this quickly? It's
much more likely that he's just in love with love (best
case), or he's just trying to get one thing from you (you
know what it is). And this womanizer wants to reach his
goal as soon as possible.
3. He's over the top with the romance. We all love
romantic gestures, whether it be a hand-written poem or a
bouquet of flowers delivered to our desks at work, but if
your guy constantly wants to jet you off to the islands for a
romantic weekend or often surprises you with lavish
jewelry, then he's most likely had plenty of practice. While
you might be thinking that you're just graciously accepting
his gifts, to him, these come with expectations on your
part.
4. He only has eyes for you… and anything else in a
skirt. If you notice that your guy is checking out other
women, or worse, flirting with the waitress, hostess,
barista, etc., then he's most likely a womanizer. As he's
telling you how beautiful you are and that you're exactly
the type of woman for him, he's already thinking about
how the woman that just walked by fits the same
description. He's not lying -- the womanizer feels this way
about every woman that strikes his fancy -- you just
happen to be part of the (very populated) crowd.
5. He seems too good to be true. He's just a little too
smooth, a little too charming, a little too perfect and that
little voice in your head is telling you he's done this
before, probably many times over. While you may be
tempted to ignore that nagging little voice and head
upstairs to his apartment, just know that your instincts are
more attuned to the situation than you think. It's likely that
as he's telling you over coffee that he has a busy day
ahead and can't spend more time with you, you'll be
hitting yourself wishing you had listened to your gut last
night.
Of course, this isn't an all-inclusive list, nor should any of
these traits be considered an immediate deal breaker.
However, if any of the above are hitting close to home,
your best bet is to take things slow and see if your guy
survives the test of time. True womanizers rarely can.